Quilt #97 Vaughn Belliston donated by Charlene Duncan

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Quilt #97 was given to Vaughn Belliston and was donated to The Duncan Project by Charlene Duncan, Duncan's maternal grandmother.

A few weeks ago, Charlene Duncan contacted me and let me know that she was able to complete a quilt for donation to The Duncan Project. The process of her completing this donated quilt is worthy of a separate post.

I had just had a conversation with a dear friend that week about the possibility of making a quilt for her sister who had gone through some recent difficulties. I expected that she was likely the recipient of Charlene's quilt. However, when I received the quilt, I knew it was meant for someone else.

I have received these types of impressions numerous time during The Duncan Project. I have learned at this point that whenever I feel this way to take a step back, be open and just wait for the whisperings of the Spirit. 

While pondering where the quilt should be go, the name Vaughn Belliston kept coming to my mind.

We recently moved to a new ward. Due to the COVID 19 restrictions, we haven't been able to meet many members in person. A month or so ago, I received a mass email to the ward, sharing that Sister Sue Belliston had passed away from cancer. I had never met her but each person that spoke of her, remarked on her devoted service and love for the gospel of Jesus Christ.

The impressions that this was quilt was to go to Sue's husband Vaughn were strong and consistent throughout the day. I began to wonder how to give Vaughn the quilt since we have never met  I contacted my ministering sister to ask a little more about the Bellistons. She reiterated once again what an amazing example of service Sue had been. She also shared that Barbie and Steve Young. close friends of the Belliston's  might be the right people to deliver the quilt.

I reached out to the Young's with my request. They shared with me that Sue had battled cancer four times and she had confidence that she would be healed again when she was taken from this earth. I also learned that Sue was a gifted quilter. 

I had the fleeting thought that perhaps Sue had found one more way to remind her sweet husband of her love for him with this quilt.

Through this project, I had become so aware and convinced of how connected we all are. We are God's hands. Love from him flows through us to touch his sons and daughters. 

Many thanks to Charlene and Steve and Barbie Young. There is such love in the stitches for Vaughn and Sue Belliston.

Quilt #95 Suzanne Storer donated by Mary Duke

Quilt #95 was presented to Suzanne Storer by Mary Duke.

Mary writes: 

Duncan Quilt #95 goes to Suzanne Storer. Suzanne is a woman who is an awesome example of charity. It seems she always has someone she is loving and serving.

There have been several times in my life that she has been a strength and sounding board for me. When she lost a dear friend a few months ago to cancer, I decided she needed a Duncan quilt.

Suzanne's dear friend, Teresa, was diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer about 6 years ago. At the same time Teresa was going through an awful divorce. So Teresa was left alone with her two daughters to fight this battle. 

Suzanne was there with her all along the way. She took her doctor's appointments, cleaned her house, cooked many meals and helped with her girls (and teenage girls can be a handful).

In the picture, where I presented Suzanne the quilt, there is a sign about her head that say, "Simply." In Suzanne's quilt are squares spelling out the word love. When I looked at the photo later, I realized that the picture explains perfectly what Suzanne is good at...Simply loving all she meets.

Love is literally in the stitches in this quilt. It is quilted with so much love, and LOVE is literally stitched into the quilt.

Anyone who spends any time with Suzanne will feel of her kindness and generosity.  There is truly love in these stitches for this amazing woman.

Quilt #94 Heather and Zoey Welch donated by Mary Duke

Quilt #94 was presented

to Heather Welch by Mary Duke. 

Mary writes:

Most Duncan Quilts go to someone who is going through a difficult time. But not this one. This is a celebratory quilt.

Heather was pregnant last year and lost her baby. Such a hard thing to go through, especially with the first pregnancy.

But just last month, 

Heather was blessed with a beautiful, healthy, little baby girl. Welcome to the world Zoey.

Writing this post touched my heart this morning. It reminds me how full the joy is that follows our hard things. 

The binding on this quilt also reminds us that we are bound together in love. In the words of Bonnie Oscarson, "Oh, how we need each other."

I add my love to these stitches for Heather and baby Zoey.

Quilt #92 Austin Patten

Quilt # 92 was given to Austin Patten. He was nominated by his relative Jodi Peterson. On August 17.2019, just a couple months after getting married , Austin was hit by a car while riding his bike. He sustained serious injuries including two collapsed lungs, multiple broken ribs and a spinal cord injury. The accident has left him paralyzed without the use of his legs.

I have followed his journey since the accident. He and his wife are so impressive.  Their raw, honest and often funny sharing of this journey is so inspirational. Austin gave me permission to share photos from his instagram page @latterdaytriathelete. I have selected a few but honestly, it was hard to choose. I encourage you to follow his instagram page. 

 Austin was an elite endurance athlete before the accident. Now wheelchair bound, he continues to race and accomplish his goals with a greater sense of his relationship to the Savior and his purpose on earth.

From one of Austin's posts:

No matter what the race throws at us we have to keep moving forward. If you stop moving forward you cannot finish the race. As long as you move forward, you will finish the race and be able to rest. The faster you go, the sooner you get to rest. Everyone’s in the same race but each has a very different race. Keep moving forward and keep encouraging those around you to move forward. As we encourage others, we encourage ourselves. Who will you encourage today?

There is gratitude for the gift of his story and love in the stitches for Austin and Jill...

Quilt #93 Tori Yorgason donated by Yorgason Clan

Grandma Joni writes:

Quilt #93 is a cousin celebration quilt! The Yorgason cousins wanted to make a quilt for their new cousin coming on the Yorgason side of the family

Baby is coming during a global pandemic so we thought she needed to be celebrated with a Duncan quilt. The Yorgasons helped Grandma Joni make the quilt---even Bennett (2 year old) helped by pushing his foot on the pedal. No kidding! It was quite the adventure

All babies and mommas are special but at this challenging time in history we want to shower this little one with extra love as they bring a "perfect brightness of hope" to his world.

There is love in the stitches for this beautiful new little one.

Quilt #90 Kari Slade donated by Mary Duke

Kari Slade with her quilt

Quilt #90 was given to Kari Slade by Mary Duke. Kari is battling breast cancer during the turbulent time. Kari and Mary came to know each other as Kari teaches the body pump and spin classes Mary takes at the gym.

Due to social distancing concerns, Mary left this quilt on the doorstep with a beautiful note, part of which reads:

Kari, you have always been such an inspiration to me and you continue to be.

An inspiration in physical conditioning, an inspiration in beauty, an inspiration in kindness and the love you share with all, and in our little chats at the gym, an inspiration of faith. Your positive attitude is such a light to all of us.

You are in my prayers often...

A friend gave me the pattern and fabric for the quilt top. The quilting (stitching) was done by a lady named Donna Sine. I asked her to put a weight lifter, cyclist and a runner on the top white stripe. They are a symbol of your strength. Kari, you strengthen all who meet you! I also wanted a little pink breast cancer ribbon somewhere on the quilt. It symbolizes what you are overcoming.The catawampus design running throughout most of the quilt are the curves that life throws at us. The flowers at the bottom represent spring, a newness of life, and of course, the big heart represents YOUR BIG HEART!..

As I made this quilt, I thought of you and prayed for you often, and a quote came to my mind several times as I thought of you. "Occasionally, weep deeply over the life you hoped would be. Grieve the losses. Then wash your face, trust God, and embrace the life you have." 

I love you.

Upon receiving the quilt Kari contacted Mary and sent the photo at the top. She noted that she has read the letter numerous times and each time it brings tears to her eyes.

This quilt reminds me how we are all connected and the goodness we share affects us all. In the stitches of this quilt are prayers for hope and healing. Prayers that we all need today. Kari, all those associated with The Duncan Project add our Love in the Stitches...

Quilt #89 LS

Because this post contains domestic abuse, we will not be sharing the recipients name. This young woman has displayed remarkable courage throughout her ordeal. Her adorable three year old has been returned to her but I suspect the trauma for this sweet family will require light and healing for some time to come.

Her story has been written by a close family member who has provided unfailing support and has witnessed the injustice of this entire ordeal up close.

She writes:

I can’t share the name of the sweet young woman who endured unspeakable pain when her own husband accused her of committing a crime against him because she threatened to leave him.  The police were called by her parents to protect her because she was afraid for her safety.  When the police arrived her abuser weaved a tale that landed her in jail for five days.  After interviewing her abuser for eight hours The Department of Child Safety put her three year old daughter into a foster home.  There she stayed for four months while her mother fought to get her back even though no charges were ever filed against her.  She was treated like a criminal but she fought and held her head high and tried to be kind.  She endured hearing after hearing while onlookers judged her.  The only thing she had done wrong was to give her husband one more chance.  As an onlooker it was heart wrenching to see this unfold but in the end her child was returned to her.  This beautiful quilt reminded a lovely young mother that she was still worthwhile and that somebody still cared about her even though the one who promised to love and cherish her had totally forsaken her.  She will treasure her beautiful quilt for years to come.  Thank you from the bottom of our hearts for this wonderful gift!

I feel so honored to be able to create this quilt for this amazing young mother. Her courage while walking this dark road inspires me. There is so much love in the stitches for both mother and daughter....

Quilt #91 Joan Schneiter donated by the Martin Family

Joan with Toni's husband, children and grandchildren

This block called The
Friendship Star was
a favorite of both
Toni and Joan.

Quilt # 91 was presented to Joan Schneiter by the entire Martin family. Weeks ago Toni's daughter, Ashlee, talked with me about how the family wanted to make a quilt for Joan to show their appreciation for love and support Joan had given Toni and the entire family during Toni's battle with cancer.

Then a few weeks later, I got a message from Ashlee that while she was looking through patterns and fabric in her mothers sewing room,, she just happened upon a quilt topper that her mother had sewn before she was diagnosed. She felt strongly that her mother had led her to this beautiful quilt top. She felt it was as if Toni had meant it to be given to Joan.

The quilt was sent off to the quilter and when finished all the quilters in the Martin tribe took turns sewing on the binding.

The quilt is a celebration of nearly 60 years of devoted friendship. A friendship with so many layers beginning in childhood and lasting until Toni's final moments here on this earth. And there is no mistaking that their connection with be enjoyed through the eternities.

The family wrote a poem for Joan to share their appreciation:

In the days since Toni's passing, we have turned to one another

Often times reflecting on the support for our wife, grandmother and mother

Our family's thoughts aligned with one very important goal:

Give thanks to an amazing woman who has play a vital role

A person that's been there all along the way, but especially in trial

Lovingly called an earthly Angel, she was with Toni all the while

Since nearly 60 years ago she's love Toni fiercely, without end

Who else could we mean, but Joan? The world's greatest friend.

Many of our memories as kids include "Mom's best friend Jn oan"

Like when they'd spend hours on end just talking on the phone

There were countless summer picnics and summer days spent with her at the park

One thing we can say for sure: her love has left its mark.

Their epic friendship stood the test of time, including time in college

It's possible, as roommates. they gained more memories than knowledge

Through several moves and life events, they always kept in touch

They were even each other's therapists when life seemed like too much 

Together they had their book club, and discovered many favorite reads

"A Joan in their life" is what Toni always said everybody needs

Lunchtime outings and dinner dates never seemed in short supply

Followed by hours spent talking in the driveway, unable to say "bye"

When things were looking grim, Joan was never far away

Spending countless hours with Tonz during every hospital stay

She offered to take our kids at every turn, treating them like her own

Whether she like it or not she's quickly become our kids' adopted "Grandma Joan"

From tea parties with the girlies to meals cooked for our dad

Joan's friendship and compassion made things seem a little less bad

Through little wins and major setbacks, Joan was always there

With words of support, a listening ear, and a heart filled up with prayer

As quilting partners Tonz and Joan created many works of art

Each piece they stitched together holds a special place in someone's heart

We're certain that Joan's endless love and kindness cannot be repaid

But for starters we knew she needed to have the last quilt Toni made

As their friendship came too quickly to its Earthly end

We hope this quilt will always help Joan feel her North Star Friend

We have all been blessed by this enviable friendship. Toni's love so generously shared in life, is definitely sewn in the stitches for her dearest friend Joan.

Love in the stitches....

Quilt #88 Ashlee Lloyd

Jeannie Thomas, Jan Myrberg, Joan Schneiter, Ashlee Lloyd, Debbie Stringfellow and littles

Quilt #88 was presented to Ashlee Lloyd, our dear Toni Martin's daughter by Joan Schneiter. Toni passed away from cancer in December. She had always planned to be part of this quilt presentation and many of us are sure, she was in attendance.

Joan Schneiter writes:

Ashley and  her mother Toni 

This quilt is a mother/daughter thank you quilt to Ashlee Martin Lloyd. On June 18th, 2019, Toni Martin received a quilt from our book club on her 60 birthday as she was battling stage four melanoma cancer. Ashlee’s quilt is from the scraps of Toni’s quilt. During Toni’s valiant, grace- filled-battle, Ashlee was particularly attentive to her mom, affectionately known to the family as Tonz. Ashlee cleaned, cooked, finished her mom’s projects, and continued to be her mom’s confidant and friend. She said on many occasions, “I do this selfishly because I just want to be with my mom!” Toni and Ashlee had a beautiful mother/daughter relationship. Toni had several difficult hospitalizations during her battle and Ashlee held her mom’s hand through every trial.  She and her mom exchanged three hand squeezes to say, “I love you!” Ashlee, her dad, and brothers were with Tonz until the end of her earthly journey on the morning of December 18th, 2019.

Ashlee is very much like her beloved Tonz: she is funny, loving, kind, a great cook, gracious, creative, and a fabulous mother. Ashlee is part of her momma, and Toni lives on through her children and grandchildren. Toni taught her children to love with fierceness and loyalty. One of Toni’s gifts that she passed on to Ashlee is the ability to humbly listen with intensity. Ashlee is part of her momma just like her quilt is part of her momma’s quilt. 

Karen (Joan's daughter), Jane, Joan, Ashlee and Debbie and littles

My mom, Jane Myrberg, helped me put this quilt together.  Toni saw the finished quilt top in November. I used Toni’s favorite quilter to quilt it, Donna Signs. I think this quilt is also from Toni! My mom finished all but two sides of the binding and on one of our quilt days, Toni’s sisters Debbie and Christy came to help finish it up. Barbara Holt and Christy finished the binding--it was a sweet day. As I watched Toni’s sisters interacting with our quilt group, I thought Toni would be smiling and laughing watching all of us together.  Love is in the stitches that bind us together.

I talked to Ashlee the other day and indicated that she is now an honorary Book Club member. We all feel a sisterhood with these talented, compassionate and lovely women. Love in the stitches.....